First: No, I am not engaged. Just wanted to calm everyone down.
Whenever I read a personal finance book/blog/website, I am warned that I better save up for my wedding. I’m quoted figures like $20k, or more, for even a small wedding. I’ve thought, “Well, I love my friends and family and everything, but $20k for one day? Are you serious?” Even though I’m not planning a wedding or anything, I’ve already made a few ( financial) decisions about if/when I get married.
My dress will NOT cost thousands of dollars. I’ve seen episodes of Say Yes to the Dress (I admit, I watch it from time to time!) where the girls have a price goal of $5k, or more, or sometimes the father announces “Price is no object, I just want my little girl to be happy”. At which point I yell at the TV. I want to look good, but I’m pretty sure I can look pretty good without spending a fortune. Plus, I’d only wear the dress one day. And knowing my luck, I’d probably spill something down the front of it.
My cake will be amazing. I don’t need it super fancy. I need it super tasty. I also don’t need it in the shape of something ridiculous and difficult to make. I might even go with cupcakes. Haven’t really thought farther than “delicious cake”.
Other than that, haven’t really given much thought to what I’d want for my wedding. So, we’ll just cross that bridge when we get to it.
But my other realization about weddings? They’re not just expensive for the Bride and Groom (or their parents, depending on the situation). They’re also pretty expensive for the guests.
I’m planning on attending two weddings this year. I’m glad to be going, because I love the couples that are getting married, and it will be great to be there on their big day, and share it with them and a lot of other friends. But these are the first weddings I’ve been invited to that require travel. All other weddings that I’ve been to (with the exception of my older sister’s) have been local. A GPS-guided drive to a town outside of Boston. No flights. No hotel stays. Just a drive to a beautiful wedding.
So, I’m realizing that, besides saving up for my wedding, I need to save up money for my friends’ weddings. Airfare isn’t cheap. Round trips tickets could be upwards of $500. And even with a group rate, the hotels are still $100 or more per night. Plus, there’s the wedding gift, and I’m probably going to need a new dress. Yes, I want to buy some new dresses. And so maybe I’m using my friends’ weddings as an excuse for new dresses.
So, I am going to have to start two different wedding funds: the one for my own wedding, and the one for my friends’ weddings. They’re going to keep getting married, I can’t stop them! And I want to go. I don’t want anyone to think I’m not willing to go to a friend’s wedding. Now I just need to figure out which flights to get. I’m really bad at shopping for flights, through all those online sites. Where do you go to find cheap flights? I’ve tried a lot of the aggregated sites like Kayak, Expedia, and Travelocity, but I also know that not all airlines are searched by those sites. So, suggestions would be greatly appreciated on that front!
Also, I’m curious…those of you out there that have gotten married, or are getting married soon: how much did your wedding cost? Is that $20k figure books keep throwing around accurate? Did you spend a lot less or a lot more than that amount? And how did you keep your costs low?
How much will you spend? And do you have any definites like my dress and cake plans? Is cost no object? Or will you be trying to get by spending as little as possible?